So I had the opportunity to have a “mommydaddy” show marathon with my husband. We are fans of a few ok a lot of different ones. To name a few NCIS, NCIS Los Angeles, Bones, Burn Notice, Human Target, Vampire Diaries (you see now why my daughter refers to them as mommydaddy shows ~ she cannot set eyes on them) and more. We’d like to find a great comedy if there are any suggestions. But I digress…at some point during my television buffet I had this thought: I want a television relationship. Yep, that’s right a television relationship.
I know, I know, the relationships I see and envy are totally scripted. Someone who gets paid (probably more than me) dreams up these characters and their interactions. They are completely fictional and I’m sure I’m being set up ~ just like with those Magic Bullet infomercials (that’s a story for another day). That being said I want one!! Having someone know you so well they know the right thing to do at the very right moment, or you have that story just between the however many of you. Seemingly able to know what the other is thinking and so closely entwined in each other lives that the relationship seems perfect.
Of course I realize there is no perfect relationship ~speaking earthly here~. And like blown glass it is the nuances and unique traits that make them all the more valuable. Now, don’t get me wrong I have dear friends. We have poured much of ourselves into each other. I had friendships fade, grow stronger, multiply, and grow bitter. I have acquaintances that I would love to blossom into friendships, but lack the time to make them grow. I’ve had friendships that turned out to be better off as acquaintances. So why do the tv relationships seem so great?
This leads to my next thought: tv relationships have a blatant yet subtle omission ~ the work of the relationship; the art of the formation and growth and maturation of the relationship. I get instead a microwave relationship, ready in 30 minutes to 1 hour with commercial interruptions in place of a homecooked stick-by-your-side friendship. Aha! I like the work. Like cooking I usually prefer to make it from scratch. It is very satisfying to enjoy the end result. But I do enjoy a good greasy take out burger too.
Alas I will still keep my dvr chock full of mommdaddy shows for our viewing enjoyment but remembering that what is left “censored” from my shows are the best parts of life.
1 comment:
INCREDIBLE! SIMPLY INCREDIBLE. how old are you??? :) you are wise beyond your years. i looooooooved this one.
a microwave relationship vs a homecooked from scartch meal. :) classic.
also, your perception of friendships - right on! it is painful to lose friends. but friendships do change and / or fade. it seems impossible when we are in the honeymoon phase, but then we find ourselves a few weeks or months into it and as you also astutely stated, our families need us. we can't spend oodles of time with both. sometimes, the friendships suffer more for it. :)
wonderful insight. simply...wonderful. :)
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